I suppose that you are using a sample similar to this one
while the grid is embedded in page view of RadMultiPage and extended with custom logic to mark the relevant tab of RadTabStrip as selected.
Is my assumption correct? Can you please post your code implementation in this forum thread (using the 'Format Code Block' option at the top right corner of the forum editor toolbar) to familiarize with it and advice you further?
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