The reminder functionality is working according to the start time of the appointment and the reminder property set to it as it is done in this on-line demo and it can not be affected from the custom attribute. In your case I will recommend you to insert the appointments with the desired start and reminder set so they trigger at the same time according to your schedule.
Hope this will be helpful.
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