I have prepared a sample project for you that uses amount of data close to a real time scenario - 100000 items with 50 properties (columns). Is the performance on your side similar or worse? I believe that your real project utilizes much more complex UI layout, and this may cause certain difference. You can also send us a runnable sample project that we can debug on our side and give you guidance for improving performance.
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