I am not quite sure, that I had understood the scenario you attempt to achieve. Would you elaborate a bit more on the matter? Do you aim to remove the RadComboBoxItem from the DropDown, once it is selected? Please note, that the RadComboBoxItems are inaccessible at the server, when the control uses LoadOnDemand mechanism to be populated. This is described in out help article here.
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