Generally, we do not recommend working with the visual elements as RadGridView is a virtualized control and its elements are reused as they are brought in and out the view area during scrolling. You can also check our online documentation explaining how the UI virtualization works.
As to the merged cells functionality introduced with version Q3 2014, I have forwarded your contact to the sales team. They are going to contact you with further options on upgrade.
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