I am afraid that if you want to customize the validation in a way, you would better follow some of the approaches that give a bit more freedom. For example, implementing IDataErrorInfo/ INotifyDataError, handling validating events of RadGridView.
Check out "Validating
"article (and the links towards our SDK examples at the end) for a reference.
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