There is currently no way to separate selected color and primary color in the new var based theme.
Primary color are often way too strong and heavy for a selected background.
Half the selected states are hard linked to primary color, while the other half to base.
Right now, the only way to separate this is to write CSS overrides for every single component that has some selected states.
It feels like the theme has become way too strict and opinionated. Standard common states should be still globally themable and not linked to some base color.
$kendo-selected-text / bg for example cannot be overwritten either - they are not marked as !default.