You need to modify the DocumentTabChromeStyle of ButtonChrome element in order to achieve the desired approach. It is part of the control template of RadDocumentPane and it is responsible for the visual appearance of the RadPane.
The attached project demonstrates this approach via our Implicit Styles mechanism (and NoXaml binaries).
I hope it helps.
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