Setting the RowHeight property of RadGridView should work as expected. Please check if there is a style that is overriding your setting.
As for different row heights - this could be achieved by using a RowStyleSelector. Please check the RowStyleSelector help article which illustrates how to conditionally style rows.
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Yoan
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