Unfortunately, the RadToolBar doesn't support drag and drop reordering of its items out of the box. However, you can accomplish drag and drop by using the DragDropManager as you mentioned earlier.
I attached a sample project to demonstrate a basic implementation.
I hope this could be a good starting point.
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