If I understand correctly, you do not want to have the PanelBarItems focused at all, which can be achieved by setting the Focusable property. Please find attached the same project to my answer where I have added a setter in the Style targetting RadPanelBarItem.
Generally the RadPanelBarItem inherits from RadTreeViewItem and there you can find some logic about getting the focus.
I hope this helps.
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