Thanks for the feedback. You can attach to the CommentShowing event of the RadRichTextBox and set the visual setting you need in the AppearanceSettings property of the event args. Note, that this event will be fired only once for every comment - when it is first shown by the RadRichTextBox.
I hope this was helpful.
the Telerik team
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