I have a column with only two possible values, and I have put a kendoDropDownList in the filter cell for that column. Now the filter button above, in the main header cell, makes no sense. How can I hide just the one button?
As the functionality that you are looking for is not supported out of the box, you will need to find a custom way to achieve this. The easiest way is to use jQuery to change the display property, so I do not see a reason why not to use your approach.
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