You are right that you can use the RadTabControl and RadTabItem instead of the microsoft one. As for the theming we provide themes for some of the basic microsoft controls such as ScrollViewer, Button, CheckBox, RadioButton, TextBox and ListBox and ListBoxItem. We do not plan to extend that list. I guess in your case you will have to stick with the RadTabControl and RadtabItem.
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