I am attaching a simple project where you can see a simple implementation of how you can select RadListboxItem when you have ObservableCollection bound as an ItemsSource. If you don't have it bound you can just use the Focus method :
(listBox.Items as RadListBoxItem).Focus();
Hope this will help.
the Telerik team
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