You can enable and respectively disable RadGridView, GridViewRow, GridViewCell. However you perform these operations on a UI level only in GridViewCell. Thinking in this way to achieve the desired result through
editing the template of GridViewCell and change the Border named Background_Disabled in an appropriate for your use case manner.
You may find attached an example that demonstrates this approach.
Regards,
Vanya Pavlova
the Telerik team
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