Have you tried using the BorderBrush and BorderThickness properties of RadExpander? Also, to set a background to the header you can set a background to the first panel/control you add in the header. If this does not help, could you please share with us more details/code on how you create the expander. This way we will be better able to assist you.
All the best,
the Telerik team
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