We are aware of this problem (that the draggable area is too small) and we are thinking about letting the user to configure the draggable border thickness. Unfortunately you cannot configure this as this time.
About the hand cursor - we are using hand, because Silverlight 3.0 doesn't have diagonal resize arrow. The cursor will be changed in Silverlight 4.0 where this cursor is available.
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