Try subscribing to RadGridViews' SelectionChanged events and using the FocusManager.GetFocusedElement() determine whether you have "left" a RadGridView, or you have just selected another item of the same one. Then you may set its SelectedItem to null, considering the results of this check.
Kind regards,
Ivan Ivanov
the Telerik team
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