Hi Open Mind,
You could use RadContextMenu Opening or Opened event to get clicked element.
Then you could update a property of your ViewModel with the clicked element. RadMenuItem CommandParameter will be bound to this property.
We use a similar approach in our RadContextMenu FirstLook demo:
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