Your question has already been answered in the other thread you've opened.
I am adding the answer here in order the community to benefit from it:
You can use the Owner property to get the corresponding grid:
private void radButton1_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
RadGridView grid = ((Form1)this.Owner).RadGridView1;
I hope this helps.
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