You may style the standard CheckBox control direclty through using the Telerik's StyleManager:
If your columns are auto-generated, you may subscribe to the RadGridView's AutoGenerating event in order to access these columns. From there just set the appropriate CellTemplate with the desired CheckBox and its corresponding appearance.
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