Currently the ajax implementation you are using is the best one for your scenario.
Unfortunately it will not be possible to set controls from one PageView the update controls from another because adding single PageView in RadAjax settings is not supported action. Even if you decide to use RadAjaxManager you should add the whole MultiPage to update itself in the manager settings which is actually equvalent to wrpping the whole MultiPage with a RadAjaxPanel.
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