In case you do not have App.xaml, you could merge the ResourceDictionaries with code ( Application.Current.Resources.MergedDictionaries.Add..) or you could merge them locally in the User Control.
As to the second issue with the designer - could you please provide us with more details/sample project demonstrating the problem, so we to be able to test it at our side?
I am looking forward to your reply.
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