The grid web part is not as flexible as the RadGrid control itself. The only way to customize it is to inherit the TelerikSPRadGridWebPart and set any desirable properties to the grid within, which is exposed through the Grid property on the TelerikSPRadGridWebPart. Thus, you will have to create a new web part of yours inheriting the telerik ones.
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