Unfortunately I was unable to reproduce the described behavior with missing items in PreRender event. Can you please give us little more details about your grid declaration and the way it is databound? Please note that when set inside DataBound event, this logic will not be executed on every postback, but only when the grid control is databound, therefore is may lead to inconsistent behavior.
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