To be able to customize the Background of RadTabItem when selected you'll have to retemplate the default control template of RadRibbonTab. If you open the default control template you will see a Border with x:Name Background_Selected
that we made Visible when TabItem is Selected. You might refer to this
help article that explains how to extract default templates of our controls.
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