Based on the provided description I'm not completely sure what exactly is the issue you are facing. Are you truing to get the RadListView selected item on a external button click?
If this your case you could use the approach below:
sender, EventArgs e)
ImageButton btn= (ImageButton ) item.FindControl(
I hope this helps.
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