What you experience as a behavior is quite strange. In general when you wrap specific set of controls in UpdatePanel or RadAjaxPanel only these controls are update upon Ajax request initiated from them.
In order to troubleshoot this problem, please open a support ticket and provide a runnable sample so I could examine your implementation locally.
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