Hi Adrian Pay,
In order to prevent the selection you can use the PreviewSelectionChanged event and set e.Handled = true if the "clicked" item should not be selected. As for the MouseOver/Selection colors you can check out this forum and the attached project in it. Please let us know if this helped you.
All the best,
the Telerik team
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