You can have one additional style targeting RadPanelBarItem that includes the color changes that you need. The next step is to bind this Style of RadPanelBarItem to the IsExpanded property of the item via Converter. The converter will switch the Style depending of the boolean value of IsExpanded. Let us know if this could fit in your scenario.
All the best,
the Telerik team
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