To make sure that the column stays hidden, you can locate the code to hide it in the PreRender event handler. Then, you can iterate through all the columns in the control (RadGrid1.MasterTableView.Columns) and when your iteration reaches the ExpandCollapse column, you can hide it. This should keep the column hidden.
Let me know how this helps.
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